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Muhammad; a Pedophile or a Devout Husband?

Published October 23, 2015 by AbdulJabarAzimi

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“How do you believe in a pedophile to be a prophet? How can you follow a child rapist and a womanizer, He married A’ishah when he was 54 and she was 9, are you that crazy?! You Muslims encourage child abuse and Islam is a religion that teaches pedophilia.” [A fellow non-Muslim, 2010] In the next few pages, Prophet Muhammad’s marriage to lady A’ishah shall be discussed and explained briefly as understood and accepted by Muslims.

First I shall state some historical and cultural facts deemed helpful to reach the truth about the marriage under discussion.

1. From an article discussing the Age of consent historically, it gathered information from many acknowledged sources like the “Encyclopedia of Children and Childhood in History and Society”, “Children and Youth in History – Age of Consent Laws” by Stephen Robertson, University of Sydney-Australia, and “The Age of Marriage in Ancient Rome” by Lelis, Arnold , Percy, William A. , & Verstraete, Beert C.; we read the following:

In Ancient Rome, it was very common for girls to marry and have children shortly after the onset of puberty. In the 12th century A.D. “Gratian”: the influential founder of Canon law in medieval Europe, accepted age of puberty for marriage to be between 12 and 14 but acknowledged consent to be meaningful if the children were older than 7.1 There were authorities that said that consent could take place earlier. Marriage would then be valid as long as neither of the two parties annulled the marital agreement before reaching puberty, or if they had already consummated the marriage. It should be noted that Judges honored marriages based on mutual consent at ages younger than 7, in spite of what Gratian had said; there are recorded marriages of 2 and 3 years old. The American colonies followed the English tradition, and the law was more of a guide. For example, Mary Hathaway (Virginia, 1689) was only 9 when she was married to William Williams. Sir Edward Coke (England, 17th century) made it clear that: “the marriage of girls under 12 was normal, and the age at which a girl who was a wife was eligible for a dower from her husband’s estate was 9 even though her husband be only four years old.” The French Napoleonic Code established an age of consent of 11 years in 1791, which was raised to 13 in 1863. Portugal, Spain, Denmark and the Swiss cantons, initially set the age of consent at 10–12 years and then raised it to between 13 and 16 years in the second half of the 19th century. Historically, the English common law set the age of consent to range from 10 to 12. In the United States, by the 1880s, most states set the age of consent at 10-12, and in one state, Delaware, the age of consent was only 7. A New York Times article states that it was still aged 7 in Delaware in 1895. [End of adaptation from the article].

We often run after the money, the houses, the cars, the degrees

Published October 16, 2015 by AbdulJabarAzimi

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Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem, we often run after the money, the houses, the cars, the degrees, and forget about our salah’s, reciting the Qur’aan, taking care of our parents, and the needy, take part in spreading the (true) message of Allah and time for spenting, taking count of our ownself. This verse is a great reminder for myself and all of us to make sure we don’t neglect the important things that count…..

divorce seems to be on the rise for people everywhere

Published September 30, 2015 by AbdulJabarAzimi

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Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem, divorce seems to be on the rise for people everywhere. In Islaam this should be the last resort to ending a marriage. A couple should do all that they can to make the marriage work especially if there are children involved, unless the situation is dangerous or doesn’t permit it.

In Islaam if one should get divorced they should do so with the best manners, respect and dignity, as this is what the Prophet (Sallahe Alhee Wa Sallam) has taught us.

Lastly, once the divorce has taken place the man whom the woman divorced becomes a Non-Mahram, and vice versa. They are not to be alone anymore, they are not to joke around like before, etc. They are to be respectful and to stay away from each other.

The family of the one who has gone through the divorce should treat the woman or man who has been divorced from their family with respect but stay away from them. When the family of the woman talks to the man whom she has divorced or vice versa, it hurts the other person. We need to stay away from hurting others. Feelings and emotions are important to notice and to understand in Islaam. If we don’t care about how we make others feel, then Allaah may punish us, our kids or even grandkids in the way we punished others. Subhana’Allaah, we should always be aware of what we are doing and know that today we are doing it, tomorrow it may happen to us. So if you don’t want it to happen to you, then don’t do it to others.

May Allaah guide us all to goodness and make us amongst the righteous. Ameen. May He make our eman strong and help us do the right thing when circumstances expect it. Ameen.

a sister beginning her journey with hijab

Published September 30, 2015 by AbdulJabarAzimi

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Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem, it always excites me to hear about a sister beginning her journey with hijab.

Just to note for many sisters who aren’t aware of what proper hijab is, it’s the covering of the entire hair, neck, and chest. Hijab means wearing lose clothing so that your body shape is not visible.

Truly it is a test when we decide to put it on. For any sisters who want to wear it mentally prepare yourself for the test. People will make fun of you, they will joke about your past, they will tell you it doesn’t look good on you, and it is better to take it off. Know that all of their comments are from Shaytaan. Shaytaan will do whatever he can to make you remove it. However, we must be strong. We must remember Allaah is testing us to see if we are truly sincere in wearing the hijab or if we are just doing it for show and tell.

If we are sincere then in’sha’Allaah we will be patient when the test comes, and make massive du’aa to get through it. We will find new friends to be with who will support us, and not put us down.

And if our jobs make it tough for us, then we will look for better positions who will respect us as women and not as objects. Who will respect us for who we are and not what we look like. Who will respect us for our talent and not what our hair or body looks like.

Allaah tell us in the Qur’aan: “Verily, in the remembrance of Allaah do hearts find rest” (The Qur’aan Chapter 13: Verse 28)

Ya Allaah may you make it easy on all of the sisters who are coming to this path and journey for your sake only. Ameen. May you give them strength, patience and perseverance to keep it on for you alone. Ameen. May you make them a light, noor of who represent Islaam. Ameen! May you give them the best character and manners, and make them amongst the righteous whom you love. Ameen!!!