Being A Mom

262501_146326445452494_5148199_nWe are sitting at lunch one day when my daughter casually mentions that she and her husband are thinking of “starting a family.” “We’re taking a survey,” she says half-joking. “Do you think I should have a baby?”

“It will change your life,” I say, carefully keeping my tone neutral.
“I know,” she says, “no more sleeping in on weekends, no more spontaneous vacations.”
But that is not what I meant at all. I look at my daughter, trying to decide what to tell her. I want her to know what she will never learn in childbirth classes.
I want to tell her that the physical wounds of child bearing will heal, but becoming a mother will leave her with an emotional wound so raw that she will forever be vulnerable. Continue reading “Being A Mom”

7 things you DON’T need as a new mother – Part 1

64445_530467540360239_197859846_nOne of the best kept secrets of parenthood is how surprisingly cheap it is. I, for one, have grown up always hearing about the expense of raising children. It is one of the main themes of our culture relating to parenthood. How many times have you heard of someone delaying parenthood, or foregoing it entirely, because they feel they just cannot afford it?  It is true that as kids grow, their needs change and the cost of higher education these days has been rising drasticly, but these are things that you can save for gradually with a good financial plan in place, inshaAllah.

As Allah mentions in the Quran:  “And whoever fears Allah, for him Allah brings forth a way out, and gives him provision (rizq) from where he does not even imagine…” (Surah At-Talaq: 2/3)  Continue reading “7 things you DON’T need as a new mother – Part 1”

Virtues of Pregnancy in Islam – PART 1

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It was just the other day that the lecturer in my Economics class presented a table displaying the fertility rates for different Southeast Asian countries and was explaining how they have decreased substantially over the years. I do not remember exactly when, but some 30-40 years ago, the fertility rate in these Southeast Asian countries was about six children per household. Now, for the few Muslim countries in that region, it is about three per household. We, as Muslim women, should realize the virtues of pregnancy in Islam, and the importance of bearing and raising children.
The following are some virtues of pregnancy which have been authentically reported. It is important to note that there are many virtues which have circulated and are unauthentic, or have been totally fabricated. Despite someone’s intentions, fabricating virtues is not correct so let us stick to what is authentic and true. Certainly the Mercy and Reward of Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala is vast and He will reward as generously and abundantly as He wills, and that is sufficient for us.

Some virtues of pregnancy:
1.      You are fulfilling one of the Islamic intents of marriage – procreation Continue reading “Virtues of Pregnancy in Islam – PART 1”

Gender Equality in the Holy Qur’an – In the Beginning Man and Woman Were Equal


“But whoso does good works, whether male or female, and is a believer, such  shall enter Heaven, and shall not be wronged even as much  as the little hollow in the back of a date-stone.” (Al Qur’an  4:125)

Written by Dr. Lutf ur Rehman. Nashville,  USA Continue reading “Gender Equality in the Holy Qur’an – In the Beginning Man and Woman Were Equal”

10 Beautiful Aspects of a Muslimah

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1. Her Obedience to the Creator: A practising Muslim man loves to have a practising Muslim wife; who knows that the life of this world is nothing but a test from her Lord; giving her an opportunity to come closer and closer to Allah, doing more and more good deeds to please Him, restricting herself from the desires of her inner self that go agai…nst the will of her Creator.
But as for him who feared standing before his Lord, and restrained himself from impure evil desires, and lusts. Verily, Paradise will be his abode. (Surah An- Naaziyaat: 40-41)
2. Her Haya (Modesty/Shyness): Haya is one of the most significant factors of a woman’s personality. Haya according to a believer’s nature refers to a bad and uneasy feeling accompanied by embarrassment, caused by one’s fear of being exposed or censured for some unworthy or indecent conduct.
Prophet Sallallahu alaihiwasallam said: “Haya comes from Eman; Eman leads to Paradise. Obscenity comes from antipathy; and antipathy leads to the fire.” (Sahih Al-Bukhari) Continue reading “10 Beautiful Aspects of a Muslimah”

Modern white slavery in Israeli Dizengoff shopping mall!!

1545782_720323334653729_1469797437_nModern white slavery in Israeli Dizengoff shopping mall!!

An Amnesty International report wrote that “Many of these women and girls become ‘commodities’, literally bought and sold for thousands of dollars or held in debt bondage. They are locked up in apartments and have their passports and travel tickets confiscated. Many women are subjected to violence, including rape. Yet most of the people who commit such human rights abuses are never brought to justice by the Israeli government.”

while in other countries,





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