Many times it is easy to assume that our spouse knows we love them. But there are so many different ways to say and show that you love them. This year, don’t let a day go by without saying it. Resolve to say, “I love you” in a special way every day. Before you leave to work, pair it with a kiss, send a text, leave a letter on your spouse’s desk or in their purse. There are so many ways to express your love… get creative and use your imagination. 🙂 #HODMarriageAdvice 💜 💙 💛 💚
My name is Melis..
Before Islam I used to be a new apostolic christian.I had a hectic life of drinking alot and having sex with different men.I have 3 children from 3 different men.I was married to the 1 but he never worked, drinking alcohol alot and abused me in front of my children.
I have a very good friend who use to give me a lift to work and use to talk about Allah and Islam. Every morning I listened but I wasnt really that interested until the day that he spoke about Allah and there was tears in his eyes…I was so moved about this grown man of 40 yrs that talks about his religion sp passionately. I started getting more interested and in January 2016 I embraced Islam. I go every week to one-on-one classes with the Imam who is teaching me step by step from the history and all I need to know in our daily lives.
I have never regretted my decision and hope other non muslims will open their eyes as well in sha Allah Ameen.Islam is the only true way of live.Alhamdullilah.
Khadija : The first to accept Islam,a successful business woman a supporter to the early development of Islam,a philanthropist,I.e the first wife of the prophet (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wassallam).
Maryam : A virgin that give birth to prophet Isah (Alaihissalaam),she sweeps and clean masjid day and night, She submitted herself to ALLAH and a surah in the Qur’an is named after her Suratul Maryam.
Aisha : The beloved wife of prophet (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wassallam).A devoted worshipper an educationist, scholar and a teacher of the science of hadith youth as she was, she was highly generous in memorization of qur’an and hadith.
Asiya : A woman of unshakable Imaan (faith), Foster mother of prophet Musa (Alaihissalaam).A wife to a rich, powerful and dictator king fir’aun but yet full of wisdom. She forsake materialism and chosen ALLAH and the Hereafter.
Ummu Ammar(summayya ) :The first woman to embrace Islam outside the family of prophet (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wassallam),The first Muslim to be matryed.
Ummu Sulaim : One of The military woman who fought at the battle field while she was pregnant during the time of prophet (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wassallam).
Fatima : daughter of the prophet (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wassallam).an obedient wife and caring mother,a nurse and a doctor Who treated the injured and wounded at the battle field during the time of prophet (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wassallam).
YES: Women are proud, they are too precious:
why? Because in The Qur’an, ALLAH named a surah after women. Ayrshire An-nisah
(The chapter of women)
As Salam Alaikum Wa Rahmadullahi Wa Barakatu all ❤️
My name is Mariana and I’m Czech revert living in Uk.
Alhamdulillah I’ve converted to islam 4 years ago in young age. As many of you know back home we didn’t really knew nothing about muslims, we hardly see any muslim (I’ve never seen one in my life back home) and mostly all we knew about muslims was trough social media (e.g. Al-Qaida , Taliban and of course 9/11). And even in school we had nothing about muslim. I used to be strong Catholic, used to read bible and old and New Testament on daily and even go to Catholic Church school.
But all changed when me and my mother moved to uk and she have married pakistani muslim man , well he wasn’t a great example of muslim but that’s when i met my first muslim ever. After a while I’ve started going to school here and meet more muslims and becoming friends with them.
And that’s when my research began. From hating muslims I went to protecting and loving them , soon after finishing Quran and Reading life of Prophet Muhammed SAW I’ve converted to Islam Alhamdulillah. Path was easy till the day I’ve started to properly practice it. My mom wasntmuch happy about me no more, loads of my family started backbiting and I’ve even lost many of my dearest friends and even got a death threats from my love ones . But Alhamdulillah with a help of Allah SWT I’ve been strong and just went my way learning more about my religion and covering my self .
I’ve been trough bad just to become stronger and created more and more passion for my religion ISLAM ❤️.
Islam has showed me truth which i was looking for.
When everything was going downhill this phase always helped me “Allah test those who he loves” Subhan’Allah look at this , if you feel life is hard remember this ☺️
May Allah SWT bless you all with an good health and let us all meet in Jannah . Ameen
Make the most of being a wife
Being called as someone’s hoor ul ‘ain, wife or better half is an amazing feeling. But the amazement can reach a higher level when we realize the benefits that can be attained in this world and the hereafter through this incredible yet challenging role.
(1)Win the titles-Best of women, Best of comfort, Best of wealth:
1 out of 100 women in the world dreams to win the title of Miss World. When a believing woman is considered ,this female slave of Allah, would love to and strive hard to attain the titles of best of women, best of comfort and best of wealth ,mentioned in the following ahadith.
It was narrated that Abu Hurayrah said: It was said to the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him): Which of women is best? He said:
“The one who makes (her husband) happy when he looks at her, obeys him when he tells her to do something, and does not disobey him with regard to herself or her wealth in a way that he dislikes.”[Narrated by al-Nasaa’i (3131); classed as saheeh by al-Albaani inSaheeh al-Nasaa’i].
The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said:
“This world is temporary conveniences and the best of its comforts is a believing wife, who when you look at her she pleases you and if you tell her to do something she obeys you, and if you are away from her she protects you with regard to herself and your wealth.”
It was narrated that Thawbaan said: When there was revealed about silver and gold what was revealed, they said: So what kind of wealth should we acquire? ‘Umar said: I will find out about that for you. So he mounted his camel and caught up with the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) and I was right behind him. He said: O Messenger of Allah, what kind of wealth should we acquire? He said:
“Let one of you acquire a thankful heart, a tongue that remembers Allah and a believing wife who will help him with regard to the Hereafter.”
Narrated and classed as hasan by al-Tirmidhi (3094). In another version it says: “who will help him with his faith.” Ibn Maajah (1856). Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani inSaheeh al-Tirmidhi.
To win these titles, a woman got to inculcate the following important characteristics mentioned by the Prophet of Allah (peace and blessings upon him):
When her husband looks at her, he is happy with her religious commitment, attitude, behavior and appearance.
When he is away from her, she protects his honour and his wealth.
If he tells her to do something, she obeys him, so long as he does not tell her to commit sin.
(2) Become the woman of jannah:
Obedience is the first right Islam acknowledges for the husband over his wife which can lead her to enter paradise. The Prophet of Allah (peace and blessings upon him) said:
“If a woman performs the five daily prayers, fasts the month of Ramadan, maintains her chastity and obeys her husband, it will be said to her:”Enter paradise by whichever of the gates of paradise you wish”.[Narrated by Ahmad (1664) classed as hasan by Al-Albani].
(3)Your husband, your hero!:
Consider your husband as your hero. He is your prince charming chosen by Allah, the most loving. Love your man to the core. Keep reminding yourself of his love and care for you, making him worth of your grateful gaze, leaving you teary eyed.
Show the signs of having a thankful and contended heart because of your hero. Beholding your sight only for him helps in lowering your gaze from non-mehram men and thus maintain your chastity.
Know his position in your life. The Qur’aan and Sunnah indicate that the husband has a confirmed right over his wife, and that she is commanded to obey him, treat him well and put obedience to him above obedience to her parents and brothers. Indeed, he is her paradise and her hell.
For example, Allah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has made one of them to excel the other, and because they spend (to support them) from their means”.[al-Nisa’ 4:34]
And the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said:
“It is not permissible for a woman to fast when her husband is present except with his permission, or to allow anyone in his house without his permission.”[Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 4899].
Ibn Maajah (1853) narrated that ‘Abd-Allah ibn Abi Awfa said: When Mu’aadh came from Syria, he prostrated to the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) who said,
“What is this, O Mu’aadh?” He said, I went to Syria and saw them prostrating to their archbishops and patriarchs, and I wanted to do that for you. The Messenger of Allah (S) said, “Do not do that. If I were to command anyone to prostrate to anyone other than Allah, I would have commanded women to prostrate to their husbands.By the One in Whose hand is the soul of Muhammad, no woman can fulfill her duty towards Allah until she fulfils her duty towards her husband. If he asks her (for intimacy) even if she is on her camel saddle, she should not refuse.”[Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh Ibn Maajah].
(4)Multiply your good deeds:
The Prophet of Allah (Peace and blessings be upon him) said,
”Whoever guides someone to goodness will have a similar reward.”
Can there be a better source than your life partner to multiply your good deeds? With utmost respect and proper hikmah, guide your husband towards goodness. From encouraging to spend in the way of Allah azza wa jal to little reminders of saying Bismillah before eating or saying Allahu Akber before climbing up, utilize this beautiful opportunity of sharing your entire life with your husband in multiplying your good deeds.
(5) Best friends forever:
A best friend is the one who when you are alone, becomes your shadow. If you want to cry will lend a shoulder. If you want a hug becomes your pillow and when you want to be happy becomes your smile.
Your soul mate, your man can be your BFF. It’s just the matter of considering him as your besty. Peace and tranquility can be attained by sharing your thoughts ,your fears, your interests with him. Be playful with him. Plan exciting stuff with him. Count on him as the best of support in the times of tests and trails. These gestures of yours will make your relationship much stronger.
(6)Become a better person:
There is always a room for personal development. Life is a bumpy road. There may be times of anger and remorse between the soul mates. Here comes an opportunity for the wife to learn being patient and handling the whole situation perfectly. When your husband is angry try to remain silent and let him calm down.
Abu Ad-Darda’, may Allah be pleased with him, said to his wife:
“If you see me angry, calm me down, and if I see you angry, I will calm you down, otherwise it will be too difficult to live together”
Following this amazing advice of the companion of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) can help you gain the pride of your husband for being an amazing wife. He may start loving you more.
Also, why not grasp the good qualities of the love of your life and become a better person? Whether it is learning the deen or handling the worldly affairs, observing your husband’s attitude while dealing with such things can make your life much easier.
For example, if you see him keeping his promises always, learn that quality from him and try to keep the promises you make with anyone. Another example can be taken as, say, you have a weakness of over thinking on comments made by people on you. If people make comments on your husband he gives a deaf ear. Bravo! Grasp this quality of his and lead a peaceful life.
What can be more blissful than knowing that your significant other is helping you to become a better person followed by being grateful for having him in your life.
We ask Allah Subhanahu ta’ala to instill the best of love, compassion, understanding, respect and trust in this heavenly relationship, make our spouses coolness of our eyes and a key to enter paradise. Ameen!
4 Secrets of a Muslim Wife for a Happy Life!
There are many articles and books written about importance of marriage in Islam, duties of a wife and husband and etc. I am sure most of you read those not once and I won’t be repeating the same ahadith in this post.
1. I would like to share a very different hadith which is usually not quoted when talking about this subject.
After the Battle of Uhud, the Muslims returned to Madinah and were tasked with the unfortunate difficulty of having to tell those who stayed behind, namely the women and children, about the loved ones they lost.
One such person was the Prophet’s (sallalahu aleihi wa sallam) cousin, Hamna bint Jahsh. Her mother and the Prophet’s (sallalahu aleihi wa sallam) father were siblings. Hamna (may Allah have mercy on her) had it tough.
She was first told she lost her brother. Hamna responded with duaa and patience.
She was then told she lost her uncle, and also responded with duaa and patience.
After a little while, someone came to inform her that she also lost her husband, Mus’ab bin Umayr. Upon hearing this news, she screamed and began weeping.
When the Prophet saw her situation, he said something truly remarkable. “A husband has a very special place in the heart of his wife. Marriage is a very profound and strong experience… a wife loves her husband very much, more than even he may realise.”
When the quarrels and hardships of the day take over our lives, we usually forget that indeed Allah has placed an immense love between a husband and wife. It is indeed a miraculous gift how two far and unrelated people became so close and caring of each other.
So anytime you are upset with your spouse or a married life, just remember this gift that Allah has granted you. Do not follow the anger and Shaytan whispers, but rather remember that it is a blessing to be next to your husband and have him in this world.
2. I receive many of mails where sisters would share their stories of dealing with a tough, not religious, not following his duties husband and they would seek an advise of how to change him. I would always reply that only ALLAH can change hearts. Instead try to change yourself (there is always a room for improvement), be the best example yourself and never forget your salah and making Dua for the best in this Dunya and Akhira. As you know, my parents are not muslims (yet) and many times I would loose hope completely that they would ever embrace Islam… but then one simple Dua – and their hearts get more soft with each time. Thus focus on yourself and your relations with Allah, perfect these relations and yourself and in sha Allah, our Lord will take care of the rest! When your husband realizes that you are being humble and trying to avoid conflicts he will do the same and will have a big impression about you.
3. Do not compare your life to others especially those couples who are all over social media writing their love letters to each other in the comments over the Instagram photo. As they say the best sign of healthy relationship is no sign of it on Facebook / Istangram / Snapchat (insert the necessary).
We are all different and especially our men are different and surely second to none 🙂 Your husband may not be publicly writing poems to you on FB but instead he would be patient with you and this is how he shows his love. Or he would always make dua for your place in Jannah with him and none but Allah knows about it.
We are all different and Allah has blessed each of us with our spouses in a unique way. Be grateful for the blessings you are given and thank your Lord every day and in sha Allah you will be increased!
And [remember] when your Lord proclaimed, ‘If you are grateful, I will surely increase you [in favor]; (Chapter (14) sūrat ib’rāhīm (Abraham). Sahih International)
4. Rasulullah [Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam] said: “The woman who reads her five prayers, fasts in the month of Ramadhan, protects her chastity and is obedient to her I husband; such a woman will enter into Jannah from any of the doors she wishes to enter from’’
If you look at this list, it seems easy and difficult at the same time. We all do fast, pray and guide our chastity but how can we be obedient to our husbands at all times because most of the times they are simply not right? Well, noone said the Jannah is easy. Being obedient to your husband means a happy family. Happy family means happy children. The family is the nucleus of civilization and the basic social unit of society. Having happy and healthy families will make our ummah strong! And all this huge task is starting from an obedient woman sunhanallah! Indeed the only fair reward for this duty may be Jannah in sha Allah. How Just our Creator is!
So let these above 4 points be your secrets to a happier and righteous life.
Once you start living a life like that you see the change in your husband and yourself which would definitely make your love story like that which are read in books bidihnillah.
An Advice for Married Brother and Sisters ❤
And my advices 🙂
– Avoid negative thinkings
– Help each other getting more closer to Allah
Via doing tahajjud, charity.
– Give time to each other, ur lifepartner doesn’t want all money, suited person… she expects and wants ur time and ur strictness on deen after she found ppl looking very handsome,suited, successful and professional but with alot low personality like dishonesty, soft porn addicted and liars.. so be true muslim
– Give ur time to deen, by both participating at Islamic events
– Have plan for training and presenting dawah activist and severs of this deen children/kids to society
If not we would be loser after death coz if not islamic they would b gangster and disrespectful persons…
And above was advices from a single bro 🙂
Now u can share ur own advices and effective ways of living more with love and in circle of islam for ur married Muslim bro and sisters.