The Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:
* “The best of marriage is that which is made easiest.” Narrated by Ibn Hibbaan, classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami’, 3300.
* “…And live with them in kindness…”-Quran (4:19)
* “The best among you are those who are best to their wife. (Ibn Majah)
* “The most complete of the believers in faith, is the one with the best character. And the best of you are those who are best to their women.” (Tirmidhi)
* “The world is provision and the best provision in the world is a righteous woman.” (Sahih Muslim 1467)
And he (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:
* “The best of mahrs is the simplest (or most affordable).” (Al Haakim and Al Bayhaqi, classed as sahih by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami’, 3279)
* And the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said to a man who wanted to get married: “Look (for something to give as a dowry), even if it is a ring of iron.” Agreed upon. Abu Dawood (2125) and al-Nasaa’i (3375).
* Narrated from Ibn ‘Abbaas that ‘Ali said: “I married Faatimah (may Allaah be pleased with her) and said: ‘O Messenger of Allaah, let me go ahead with the marriage.’ He said: ‘Give her something.’ I said: ‘I do not have anything.’ He said: ‘Where is your Hutami shield?’ I said, ‘I have it with me.’ He said, ‘Give it to her.’” Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Nasaa’i, 3160.
* Ibn Maajah (1887) narrated that ‘Umar ibn al-Khattaab said: “Do not go to extremes with regard to the dowries of women, for if that were a sign of honour and dignity in this world or a sign of piety before Allaah, then Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) would have done that before you. But he did not give any of his wives, and none of his daughters were given, more than twelve uqiyah. A man may increase the dowry until he feels resentment against her and says, ‘You cost me everything I own, and caused me a great deal of hardship’.” Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh Ibn Maajah, 1532. – –
NOTE: Twelve uqiyah is equivalent to 480 dirhams, i.e., approximately 135 silver riyals (134.4) (roughly £100).
This was the mahr of the daughters and wives of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him).
Salam ualaykom all… in sha Allah you are all well. I reverted to Islam in January 2017 and my journey has been incredible so far, especially with the help, support and guidance of my new husband who is Muslim born from Morocco.
I am currently in Morocco until next Saturday where I will have spent a whole month here visiting him and his family. It’s my 4th visit since last September already.
A recent post in this group saw me comment about how lucky I have been to meet my current husband and it was suggested that I write a post about the challenges I’ve faced regarding my marriage but also the positives I’ve experienced. So here goes.
As I said, I converted to Islam in January 2017, but I had met my husband to be in December 2016 on Facebook. Risky, yes, but it turned out to be the biggest blessing in my life.
He is not of wealth or status but strong in Deen. My mother is concerned that he only married me for a British passport, which he has stressed time and again he cannot do because he knows it is haram and fears Allah’s judgement when he returns to Allah.
My sister, who is also a revert, is also concerned about this and at one point, it seemed like there was never going to be anything either my husband, nor I could say that would convince either of them.
I had prayed istikhara every salah every day since I first felt anything for him, which was in February 2017. I am quite good at recognising good intent from bad. Praying istikhara, I felt stronger about him. When I stopped praying during my monthly cycle I noticed my feelings didn’t seem as strong, but as soon as I prayed again and prayed istikhara especially, those feelings returned. Never once since I first spoke to him have I regretted a single moment.
In September 2017, I decided to make a trip to Morocco but wanted to take someone with me for my first visit. My mum refused to come and my sister was pregnant so I didn’t invite her but my father was open to the idea of joining me. So he came with me.
My husband to be was waiting at the airport and that was the first sign that he was genuine. I went for a walk with him and he walked me back to my accommodation before returning home for the night. 2 days later we met his mum, 2 sister’s and his brother. At dinner, he asked my father’s permission to marry me, to which my father said yes. He then asked his mum’s permission and she said yes. As I said earlier, he was not of wealth or status… his mum was uneducated and didn’t speak a word of English. Neither did his sister’s or brother but I knew right there that this was my future.
We decided to marry in January on my 2nd visit but my sister wasn’t happy with that and wanted me to wait so I agreed… Just to keep her happy but I felt like I was in a prison. As soon as I decided to marry in January again, I felt free because it was my decision again and I wasn’t doing it to please everyone else.
We married in January Alhamdulillah and his family organised the most stunning event. They bought my dresses, the cake, the food… they hired some Moroccan musicians, photographer, videographer, and waiters to serve the food. They may not speak any English but they have welcomed me without a care in the world.
We have now been married for 9 months a b they have been the best. Although I could pray before we married, I was still unsure about my prayers. So he taught me and now I have no doubts. He teaches me everything he understands in Islam and the Qur’an to help me develop Alhamdulillah.