1 Dress up for your wife, look clean and smell good:
just as the husband wants his wife to look nice for him, she also wants her husband to dress up for her too. remember that our beloved prophet s.a.w would always start with miswak when returning home and always love the sweetest smell.
2. Use the cutest names for your wife:
our beloved prophet s.a.w had nicknames for his wives, ones that they loved. call your wife by the most beloved names to her, and avoid using names that hurt her feelings
3. Dont treat her like a fly:
we never think about a fly in our daily lives until it ‘bugs’ us. similarly, a wife will do well all day – which brings no attention from the husband – until she does something to ‘bug’ him. dont treat her like this; recognise all the good that she does and focus on that.
4. If you see wrong from your wife, try being silent and do not comment:
this is one of the ways of our beloved prophet s.a.w he used when he would see something innapropriate from his wives. its a technique that few muslim men has mastered.
5. Smile at your wife whenever you see her and embrace her:
smiling is sadaqah and your wife is not exempt from the muslim ummah. Imagine life with her constantly seeing you smiling. remember also those ahadith when our beloved prophet mohamed s.a.w would kiss his wife before leaving for swalaat.
6.Thank her for all that she does for you. Then thank her again;
take for example a dinner at your house, she makes the food , clean the home, and a dozen other tasks to prepare. and sometimes the only acknowledgement she receives is that there needed to be more salt in the soup. dont let that be; thank her
7.Ask her to write the last ten things you did for her that made her happy. then go and do them again
It may be hard to recognise what gives your wife pleasure. you dont have to play a guessing game, ask her and work on repeating those times in your life.
8.Don’t belittle her desires, comfort her.
sometimes the man may look down upon the requests of their wives. our beloved prophet s.a.w set the example for us in an incident when safiyyah radi Allahu ‘anha was crying , because, as she said, he had put her on a slow camel. he wiped his tears, comforted her and brought her the camel she wished.
9. Be humurous and play games with your wife
look at how prophet mohamed s.a.w would race Aisha radi Allahu ‘anha in the desert. when was the last time we did something like that?
10. try to be the best
Always remember the words of Allah’s messenger s.a.w: “the best of you are those who treat their families the best. And i am the best among you to my family.” try to be the best!